Let Me Introduce Myself

Hello! I am so glad you are here! First off I am a mother of four. I have three of my own children and one step daughter. At this time they range from ages 12-21. I have a degree in Social Science and have owned my own private Child care program for 21 years. I have been licensed as a child care provider for 25 years and taught preschool at a Montessori based program for five years. In these years I have seen, heard and dealt with so many situations, sickness and milestones with so many children including my own. I have a strong understanding of what is effective for a child. I can see when a child is falling behind. I can identify when a child is advanced and when a child is exactly where he/she needs to be. I can identify some common illnesses after seeing them over and over and over. Not every single time.

I do not have a special certificate showing these skills but the children and families and years of running a successful business has shown that my opinions can be beneficial to others. Some parents do not agree with my opinions and that is fine because I agree there are different styles of parenting and everyone is allowed to parent the way they choose within limits of keeping the child safe and happy but when a parent is struggling with a child and their methods are ineffective it’s time for change. 

One thing I have learned about parenting is that if we want change from our child we need to change as well. The same action will most likely cause the same reaction. There is more to parenting than feeding, dressing and loving them. You not only need to keep them safe and try to make them happy , you need to teach them. 

Sadly some adults do not have the skills to teach their child. Some parents lack social and emotional skills themselves and therefore can not teach their child any of those necessary traits. 

Many parents do not know what is “normal” behavior and often are seeking help or guidance. I was one of those parents. I was hungry for knowledge about children, parenting, health, education and what to do when children just need more than what YOU can offer them.

Each child of my own I have found asking me why someone behaves a certain way after they are unable to understand and my answer to each of them is “they have never been taught and chances are their own parents act the same way and have not shown them that behavior is unacceptable.

Children watch everything . They are more durable than you would ever believe. Children conform to what they know because it is ALL they know. I recently watched a special on the living children that survived Auschwitz and there was a perfect example. Those children knew only what the world was showing them. That it was normal to be taken from your mother and brought to a gas chamber and not one tear was shed by some because their parents had prepared them. I asked myself how is that possible? The answer is children are resilient. This is a platform for me to share my experiences. I will try to touch many topics but definitely would love questions and ideas for topics.

Being a parent I know the heartache to watch your child suffer . It’s heart wrenching at the moment but it’s essential. Each experience teaches them something. Try to make every situation a learning experience. Good and bad .

There are some of my opinions some may disagree with and that is ok, but I am hoping that some of you enjoy my thoughts and suggestions . A new parent doesn’t have all the answers but as the years go by we learn little by little and I cannot understand why it could ever be wrong to share my ideas and experiences with others if it can help. I wish I had all this information at the beginning.